So you're planning a great first date. It's easy to get so side-tracked with excessive grooming (although some is required) and your own personal fashion show that you forget to actually pick a good date itinerary. Read these suggestions closely and avoid the boring dinner and a movie routine. (If you are indeed going to a dinner and a movie, go to the movie first. This will give you ample fodder for conversation at dinner.)
First, Some Basic Dating Principles
- Plan a first date that encourages conversation and helps you get to know each other. Avoid activities like plays and movies that and avoid activities like movies and plays that leave you stuck silently in the dark.
- Tailor your first date to include a common interest, hobby, or shared value, which may help you establish an immediate connection around something that has meaning for both of you.
- If you plan to have a meal on your first date, make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner sometimes implies more intimacy than you may be ready for on a first date, and having the whole date depend on two near-strangers sitting across from each other and making conversation can create a lot of pressure.
- On most first dates you're going out with someone you don't know well, so stick to public places. This will make you and your date more comfortable.
Three Things to Do On a Date
Get Up, Get Going
Sharing a physical activity on a first date can help create a bond that may bring you closer together. Get your blood (and the pheromones) flowing! Take a hike or ride a bike. Walk to raise money for the cure du jour.
Make It Social
If the whole idea of a date makes you nervous, consider a social activity. Having others around will help take off the pressure. Go on a wine tasting or attend a charity auction.
Romance on the Water
Take your date out on the water and shift your perspective. A sunset cruise or a trip canoing down the river can make it easy for you and your date to navigate the awkward moments.
