Meeting the Right People

I have found that I run into a lot of ladies that are needy and want some one to take care of them. I prefer a partnership, not another child to take care of.

At first I thought I attracted this type of person, but changed where I went and who I saw, and still had this type of person around. So I learned how to choose wisely, also learned when to get out of a relationship that seems to be not good for me. So I cut my looses when I see things going wrong as well as communicate this with my partner.

Now I have a good relationship that is serious and all so fun to be in. That she about equal to my education level, makes a lot more money than I do, and I listen to want she has to say. We are having fun and if the realationshp stayed at this level, that would be fine with me, but then again we need to talk about what we want in a relationship.

Jerry

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Jerry, that is an excellent point. I think it's easy to get involved with a needy person because they shower you with so much attention. It can be a little more work to get involved with someone that stands firm and is a cautious as you are. But, as you say, the results are worth the extra effort.

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David
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sounds like you have a wonderful relationship there Jerry! congratulations!

i notice that a lot of my female friends are very needy in their relationships with their boyfriend/husband/whatever.............. and that those relationships don't last over the long haul

the relationships where the man and woman are 'partners and equals' seem to stand the test of time

good luck

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kate

It's not all women though. I have a young friend, a professional woman, great fun, etc. Every guy she met for the longest time was so clingy it was driving her mad.
Insecurity. I remember it well. I wasn't ready for a real relationship until I was in my 40s. I was the needy clingy one. It sure isn't a comfortable place to be!

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~~~~Becky

~ ~ ~ "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
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Becky,

As that I am not into to guys, I don't have experience in that part of life. But man and women both have many of the same traits for bad relationships, the same emotional problems but from different causes, maybe the same causes.

I need some one who is secure in themselves and wants to enjoy life with another person.

Jerry

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Me too. I want to be wanted, not so much needed. That becomes a burden sometimes.

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~~~~Becky

~ ~ ~ "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
~ ~ ~ Anais Ain

The dating scene is going well, except she wants to get married, build a new house, and a bunch of other things. Where I want to build a new deck and work my farm. The house I have now is fine for two people.

Jerry

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I do my craft well,
But I do my art better

Maybe she wants a place that's "ours" not "yours"
Perhaps a remodel? New room?
Change the decor, new paint and furniture.

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~~~~Becky

~ ~ ~ "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
~ ~ ~ Anais Ain

i am patiently waiting for the time when hubby is ready to sell his house and retire

he would NOT move to a house that could be 'ours'

i have been living here for 6 years now, and i still feel like the 'visitor'......... hard for him to understand because it's HIS house

but the idea of moving to another city has me entertained :)

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kate