Married a long time!

I'm going to go ahead and start a thread in this new forum. I'm interested to hear other members secrets to their own marriages.

My husband and I will be married 34 years this July. I got married at a young age (I just turned 20 - yikes - and my husband was 25) and I guess our secret is communication...and respect. Sure we've had our ups and downs. We've had our knock down drag outs. But above all, we respect each other. Neither one of us would ever dream of embarassing the other in public. Communication is so important. Do we have our differences? Sure we do. Lots. We actually come from different countries and cultures. But I think our differences are what makes us work. We've both had to sacrifice a lot to be together. But when it comes down to it, he's my best friend.

Anyone else??

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deedee

Oh my.
I've only been married for less than 7 years. My first, his 5th. (!!!)
We're going through a rough patch right now, but we're doing marriage counseling, and we're both working really hard to put the RELATIONSHIP first, and our selves second. Not to the point of losing our "selves" or damaging our "selves" because we know that there's no us without the parts.
We communicate as openly and as honestly as is humanly possible, improving all the time.
We'll be fine. But it sure isn't always easy. That's for damn sure!

Congrats on such a long Marriage deedee. that is great. guess communication works.

Oh wow Dee-Dee! Congrats! I agree. The key to a happy marriage is GREAT communication.

I have been married less than 2 years now but we have an amazing relationship!

I will also add that it helps to have a sense of humor. You are thrown for a loop so many times through out a marriage and if you can't just laugh at some of it then you are in trouble.

Oh yes. Be each others Best Friend. There is no one else you should count on more than your spouse.

Being married is great. Not easy but really great!

I couldn't agree more about having that sense of humor, LeAnn! Sometimes I can get really angry at my husband for something stupid, then he'll just say something goofy and we'll both just crack up!! The argument is soon forgotten...

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deedee

Same here Dee-Dee. I will try to be SO MAD at him and then he gives me that grin... or he says something silly and I can't help but crack a smile.

Being married is so much fun!

Nice thread DeeDee, thanks! Have I been married a long time? Yep! It will bee 44 years on May31. We were young and rather immature when we were married after only 7 months of dating. We found so many things about each other that we had not known beforehand. We were both rather alarmed when we opened up and shared those secrets. It was difficult for awhile but we eventually agreed that our faults evened out very nicely so we could not complain about each other's shortcomings. Now we look back and wonder why those things bothered us so much at that time. Our love for each other has grown so much and, like some of you have said, we are best friends. Our first child was born two years and 4 months after our marriage. After that birth we never questioned our marriage again. It has all been very wonderful. I do wish she would cut down on nagging me about my diabetic care, she wants me to have higher averages so I will not ever have a low below 90 or so. My A1c would be about 6.5 if I did as she wished. I like being below 6.0. I cannot complain. She has pulled me through many bad hypos. I don't have those now that I am pumping. Our marriage is great!!

Richard

I agree with what you've all said. Since David and I have been married 8 months (went by fast) I already see that it can be challenging. But at the same time it has been so much fun! We are happy because we are honest with each other, communicate well, and are always laughing. I know that we both are in it forever, as marriage sometimes these days doesn't mean that. Which is kind of sad because getting married made me feel so connected with David that I could never imagine my life with any other person. He's been with me through some of my most difficult times and has seen every side of me. He's my best friend and I would do anything for him.

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